Do we forget?

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“We don’t lose friends when we stop seeing them, but when we stop remembering them.”

Our life has a lot of roads, paths, and doors that lead us in different directions, and on the way we meet people, people that will help us, guide us, or stay with us till the end. We keep looking for a way to make our life memorable, but we forget that what makes our life memorable is the people we come across. Aristotle once said “In poverty and other misfortunes in life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds.” The human being needs friends to be able to live, to solve problems, to have a better and happier life. So why is it that we keep forgetting the ones we met in the beginning of our lives? As we make new friends, why do we leave the old ones to destiny? What makes us separate the new from the old? I think we all have friends we made during our childhood but now we don’t speak to them; our lives have changed, but they’ve made an impact, they were there for a reason. What makes a friend, a friend till the end? Maybe some circumstances in our lives made us chose for another direction, but we don’t have to forget the ones that came in first, the ones that were with us at a certain point. We need to start remembering those who changed us, those who were our friends and helped us.

Lets make our own personal reunion. If life makes you cross paths again don’t let them get away, they came back because they are an important part of your existence. And maybe because they will change you life for good. So, to those friends I left behind, I am sorry, I wish you happiness, love, and well being, and I thank you for those unforgettable moments you gave me. I have never forgotten you. For those who came back, I will make sure not to lose you again, thank you for remembering me. And for those who stayed all the time, there are no words to express how important you are in my life, you are my refuge, my comfort, my happiness, my life… How are you feeling this Friday? I am feeling excited because I will spend an entire weekend with those friends who came back, thank you for your enormous heart and welcoming love. May our memories never get lost in time…

“Los amigos no se pierden cuando se dejan de ver, si no cuando se dejan de recordar.”

La vida tiene muchos caminos, muchos rumbos y muchas puertas que nos llevan hacia distintas direcciones, y en el camino vamos conociendo gente que nos ayuda, que nos guía, o que se queda con nosotros para siempre. Muchas veces buscamos formas de hacer que nuestra vida sea inolvidable y nos olvidamos que lo que hace a nuestra vida inolvidable es la gente que nos vamos encontrando. Aristóteles decía que “en la pobreza y en otras adversidades de la vida, los verdaderos amigos son un refugio seguro. Ellos mantienen a los jóvenes lejos de la maldad, confortan y ayudan a los mayores en sus momentos de debilidad, e incitan a los afortunados a hacer el bien. El hombre feliz necesita amigos.” El ser humano necesita a los amigos para tener una vida plena, nada que se tenga se goza en soledad, los amigos son necesarios para vivir, para ayudarnos a resolver problemas, para tener una vida más feliz y más afortunada. Entonces, ¿por qué olvidamos a los que conocimos durante las primeras etapas de nuestras vidas? Conforme vamos conociendo nuevos amigos, ¿por qué dejamos a los “viejos” al destino? ¿Qué es lo que nos hace separar los nuevos de los viejos? Yo creo que todos tenemos amigos que conocimos en nuestra infancia y que ya no hablamos con ellos, nuestras vidas cambiaron y tomamos distintos caminos pero ellos estuvieron ahí por una razón, formaron parte y muchos dejaron huella. Para ustedes, ¿qué es lo que hace que un amigo que quede hasta el final en su vida? Quizás algunas circunstancias de la vida nos separaron, pero no debemos olvidar que ellos llegaron primero y que estuvieron con nosotros durante ciertos momentos importantes de la vida. Debemos empezar a recordar a aquellos que nos cambiaron, que nos ayudaron o que simplemente estuvieron ahí. Si la vida los pone en su camino de nuevo, no los dejen ir, estoy segura que regresan por una razón y que sin que se den cuenta cambiarán sus vidas para bien. No puedo cambiar mis decisiones del pasado pero si las del futuro. Para mis amigos que deje ir, lo siento, les deseo una vida llena de éxitos y de felicidad, gracias por todos los increíbles recuerdos de la infancia. A lo que regresaron, no los volveré a dejar ir, gracias por recordarme. Y a los que siempre estuvieron, no hay palabras para expresar lo importante que son en mi vida, ustedes son mi refugio, mi confort, mi esperanza, mi felicidad, mi vida… ¿Cómo se sienten este viernes? Yo hoy estoy muy contenta porque pasaré todo el fin de semana con aquellas amigas que volvieron. A ustedes, gracias por la increíble bienvenida de vida y su amor incondicional. Espero nuestra historias nunca se pierdan en el tiempo…

 

 

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Necessary Happiness…

boda todasTrying to figure out how to start this Feeling Friday, got complicated enough as the theme I am ready to speak from my heart. I always use as an inspiration something that happened to me during the week to talk about in my FF, so given that this past weekend I spent with my closest friends I will talk about true friendship, true friendship in the complexity of our minds, our existence, our emotions, the complexity of being a woman understanding another woman. The complexity and easiness at the same time of having a woman friend, so I dedicate this Feeling Friday to the women in my life, those who set me free in a time of need, those who stood by me in a time of regret, those who lifted me up in a time of depression, those who made me better in a time of immaturity, those who were my accomplices in a time of adventure, those who made me cry in a time of forgiveness, those who made me laugh in a time of necessary happiness…you know who you are… this is for you…

My husband never understands the process of this friendship, he just doesn’t know how we as women can spend so much time together and afterwards feel the need to call, text, or even spend more time together. He believes that our relationships are so complicated: we fight, we act crazy for no reason, we act as coworkers in every adventure, we seek revenge for each other problems, we live by emotions that only we can understand, we express ourselves in ways that make us feel extraordinary, we support each other without asking, we are able to overlook our flaws and still choose to stay together, we complement our lives. I am not going to lie, he is right! We are so complicated that sometimes it’s exhausting, our minds, our hearts, are always thinking and feeling something. It’s amazing how we can be happy and sad at the same time, how we can fight and forget in less than one minute, we learn to respect each other and we learn to communicate without even speaking, we can’t explain how we do it we just feel the same way. However, as exhausting as it is, it is WONDERFUL!!! I will not be the same person that I am if it wasn’t for them, they have provided me so much in my life that I am thankful they have stayed next to me. For them: I hope I was enough, I hope I was strong enough, and happy enough to make you proud, how are you feeling this friday??!! Today I am feeling THANKFUL!!! Happy Friday everyone!!

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